I woke up this morning to unbelievable tragic news. Unimaginable news that left a friend of mine, alone, losing her three precious daughters and her parents in a house fire early Christmas day. I can’t get her and them out of my mind. Feeling such loss for her and trying hard to make some sense of “how” can something like this happen? Not how did the fire happen, right now those questions seem irrelevant, but how can someone’s life be challenged to a degree that surviving this and moving on can even be possible? If there is a God…how can he or she allow this to happen? I normally am a fatalist and believe that things happen for reasons, but this one…I can’t even begin to understand. The utter devastation of her losing all that matters to her is painful for everyone who hears this story. I’m at a loss. Searching for anything, a thought, a prayer, an experience that can bring some comfort to her. Some hope to live on. Something to hang on to and hope she can move forward one day at a time. I don’t know what that is and need help to find it. I need to find it to help her. I need help from others who have different experiences and can provide some needed words of wisdom I can learn form and in turn share with her.
Words that might bring comfort, words that might say “I understand”. My reality and many of us, who know her, don’t understand or even know how to be helpful for what will be a long, difficult and painful recovery. I have lived through some loss, but nothing like this and I don’t know what to say, other than, I’m here and I care.
If you read this and you or someone you know can provide some advice, please send it my way and I will look for a way to help her through what is the most, difficult and painful time in her life. Thank you.